CARE Relational Assessment

Dr. Amy Banks

Important Notice: This assessment is designed to reflect back to you how you are currently experiencing this relationship. It is intended for informational and self-reflection purposes only and does not constitute professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The results should not be used as a substitute for professional counseling, therapy, or medical advice. If you have concerns about your relationship or mental health, please consult with a qualified mental health professional.

Instructions

Go with your gut! Try to think of an average interaction. Rate each statement based on how it typically feels in this relationship. There are no right or wrong answers – this assessment helps you understand the quality and health of your relational connection.

Rating Scale

  • 1 = None or never
  • 2 = Rarely or minimal
  • 3 = Some of the time
  • 4 = More often than not; medium high
  • 5 = Usually, very high
CALM 0/25
I trust this person with my feelings.
This person trusts me with their feelings.
I feel safe being in conflict with this person.
This person treats me with respect.
In this relationship, I feel calm.
ACCEPTED 0/30
I can count on this person to help me out in an emergency.
In this relationship, it's safe to acknowledge our differences.
When I am with this person, I feel a sense of belonging.
Despite our different roles, we treat each other as equals.
I feel valued in this relationship.
There is give and take in this relationship.
RESONANT 0/25
This person is able to sense how I feel.
I am able to sense how this person feels.
With this person I have more clarity about who I am.
I feel that we 'get' each other.
I am able to see that my feelings impact this person.
ENERGETIC 0/20
This relationship helps me be more productive in my life.
I enjoy the time I spend with this person.
Laughter is a part of this relationship.
In this relationship, I feel more energetic.

*The CARE framework was developed by Dr. Amy Banks. Interpretive feedback and relationship-specific recommendations have been added to enhance clinical utility.*

⚠️ Safety & Support Resources

If you're experiencing abuse, violence, or feel unsafe in a relationship, please know that help is available:

  • National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (24/7) | thehotline.org
  • National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673 (24/7) | rainn.org
  • Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 (24/7)
  • 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988 (24/7)

Your safety and wellbeing are paramount. These resources are confidential and can help you create a safety plan.

Your CARE Assessment Results